the proof binder
Always pissed me off when people are completely dismissive to criticizing their behavior by going “I have never done this, when have I done this?”
What do you realistically expect me to do?
I say you did, but I only have a day/general week/“lately”, you don’t believe me because it’s too vague.
I say you did, but I collected no concrete proof, so you don’t believe me.
I say you did, and now what? Pull out my binder with screenshots and an excel sheet with dates? And you don’t believe me because this rightfully would be weird and obsessive.
Man, no matter who you are: There is no way I would still voluntarily talk to you or get you to change if our relationship makes me feel like I need to keep receipts. What the hell? How would we come back from that?
Logistically, where do I store all that? How do I arrange that knowledge? What about your privacy? What about my time? As if I keep a grudge so hard I track it like a workout.
You fuckers are why I used to wish for glasses that record and store footage 24/7 so I could replay your shit to you, and something that compiles it all like a bloopers reel. Now we have both, and it’s fucking horrible and dystopian.
Your question should not be about wanting a specific clock time, while smugly knowing the other person doesn’t fucking know that and you get to feel like you won. Your question should be about the actual details and how you both can move forward from this, or what they expect from you now.