don’t appease me
Kind of weird how I get the impression sometimes that it’s my problem when I don’t like someone and it’s also my problem if someone doesn’t like me? Why though? I don’t see why any of that needs to be actively fixed by me. Either me or another person changes their mind or not. People tend to change their mind on their own due to witnessing actions by the other person, and why would anyone be forced to go out of their way to change someone’s mind (outside of performative situations like talking to your boss etc.)? No one needs to change for me and vice versa. I don’t need to prove them wrong and earn the approval of anyone if I don’t want to, and I don’t need to work on myself and dig through reasons to like someone to get myself to like them instead. It’s not that serious. I’ll reexamine my feelings about people when they happen to give me reason to, and it’s fine and normal when that happens on their own accord removed from any motivation to appease me.